AS I LAY DYING’s TIM LAMBESIS Discusses Band Breakup, Leaked Footage, And Mental Health Struggles (Video)

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2024 was a tumultuous year for AS I LAY DYING vocalist Tim Lambesis, marked by controversy and personal turmoil.

  • Band Dissolution: Lambesis faced the dissolution of his band when all other members departed, leaving him alone. Their exit statements hinted at ethical concerns and personal boundaries being pushed within the band.
  • Leaked Footage: Private footage of Lambesis and his estranged wife, Dany, surfaced online, depicting heated arguments and Lambesis exhibiting erratic behavior.
  • Accusations and Counter-accusations: Lambesis claimed the leaked footage was a “public attack” in retaliation for him filing for divorce. He accused Dany of verbal and mental abuse, while also admitting to anxiety-filled reactions in the footage. He further alleged that he had evidence of her assaulting and threatening him and had filed for a restraining order.
  • Past Controversy: This drama unfolded against the backdrop of Lambesis‘ 2013 conviction for attempting to hire a hitman to murder his then-wife.

Following the controversy surrounding his band’s dissolution and his personal life, Tim Lambesis has given his first interview to Justin Wenzel, a personal branding expert and fitness coach, on Wenzel‘s podcast.

Lambesis admitted that his personal struggles, including anxiety, had significantly impacted his relationships with his bandmates, creating an insurmountable rift within the band. He said (as transcribed by ThePRP): “I chose to make it that way, but that was my own fault. It doesn’t have to be that way… living with a person in a bus and all that, I’m responsible for making sure that there is health in my own life and personal concern between the people I’m working with and I didn’t prioritize that enough.”

Lambesis further revealed that his marital dissatisfaction with Dany had been evident for at least a year.

“I think it just really comes down to the amount of anxiety I had on a relationship level, that I just carried on a regular basis, of like, not understanding,” Tim said. “I just don’t understand how you could be with a person and not be kind to them, and, like, really mess with my head to the point where I just would wake up with anxiety. I’d go to sleep with anxiety. And to me, being that version of myself, it was inevitable I was going to push everybody else away, right? Because how do you how do you connect with a person that’s drowning in anxiety constantly, but won’t talk to you about it?

He continued: “I wasn’t going to talk about it, because I didn’t want to let anybody know how deeply unhealthy things were, because then they would tell me, I have to leave the relationship. But I wanted to find a way to fight and stay, right?

“So, I just kept it in, kept it in, and they’re like, you know, people are just saying, like, ‘Tim‘s acting less and less like himself’, like, ‘I’m concerned, what is going on?’ I never yelled at anybody or argued with anybody, or we never had fights. It wasn’t like that. It was just like, from afar, they were like, ‘This dude just feels like he’s falling apart, like, what’s going on?’ And the irony is that the relationship ended — my relationship ended — at the same time that those guys sort of gave up, per se. I’m not blaming them, but the solution occurred at the same time that they felt like they no longer were… They didn’t want… They didn’t want to stick around, because they felt like there was no solution, right?”

Lambesis explained that he believes his attempts to maintain unhealthy relationships are an attempt to fill a void created by past mistakes, particularly the loss of custody of his adopted children following his 2013 arrest.

“I think for people that are like ‘Ah man, this dude’s had every opportunity.’ I think that that’s a criticism that’s warranted,” Lambesis said. “Because it’s like, man, I’ve had plenty of opportunities to take a step back and heal from that, but I never wanted to talk about it. Because I felt like, to some degree, there was this belief that if I try to say something… When you talk about somebody losing their kids, it’s natural to feel sympathy towards them, right?

“And if I’m talking about something where [people will] feel like, ‘Oh, he’s trying to gain sympathy for how he feels’, or what he went through, then I know, for me, because I’m a public figure this, that’s a bad look, right? It’s like, oh, ‘that dude’s a narcissist’, or he’s trying to do whatever. So, I just I didn’t talk about it. I didn’t talk about it.

“You know, 12 years ago is when I was arrested and in the last 12 years, I maybe talked, just acknowledged, that loss, like once or twice, very, very briefly,” he continued. “And avoiding that to me was a real problem. So I just can’t do anything but come out and say man, that’s the route that makes sense.

“But there’s something freeing in finally acknowledging that thing I didn’t want to talk about, or if I did talk about it once a year for a couple minutes, [there’s] something freeing about it. If it’s 12 years later and I gotta cry about it a 100 more times then that’s what I’ve gotta do.”

While discussing the band’s latest album, Through Storms Ahead, Lambesis described the lyrics as a subconscious “cry for help” reflecting his mental state. The future of AS I LAY DYING was also a topic of conversation, but it seems that rebuilding the band is not an immediate priority. Lambesis then stated: “I don’t really want to talk about the details of that… I do feel like my task right now is to be further down this healing path, and when I’m there, I think it’s somewhat inevitable that I will… for people that like AS I LAY DYING already, I may not win over new fans or whatever, but for people that are like ‘I wonder if the next AS I LAY DYING album is going to be good?’ or if whatever he does next is going to be good, of course it’s going to be good if I just focus on my health and become the person that can create that and have a stable surrounding and good community around me, and that’s what’s gonna give it strength.

“But I mean the musical creation has never been the difficult part for me. And that’s like a weird thing right? Like you recall record label people or booking agents and they’re like oh, “Well is Tim good at his job?” and they’re like, ‘Of course he’s good at his job, but he’s potentially a mess in other areas of life.’ So it’s like dude, my job is the least of my worries.”

You can watch full, hour-long episode here: